conversations in my head

so say you are seeing five people at a time. on any given friday night how do you decide the person with whom you spend it?

i think the first thing it depends on is who is available on the given friday night.

let's assume they all are free.

but i can't say i've actually ever been seeing five guys at once. the most i could manage at a time was two, and i always liked one of them better. for example, one night i went out with two different guys. the first one, of course, i haven't seen since (with good reason because i wasn't interested in him) and the second i ended up dating for six months.

not that i don't think seeing five guys at once is impossible, i just don't think i allow it in my life. i'm a bit of a perfectionist and if there's someone who doesn't make the cut (you can't honestly expect five guys at once to make the cut, can you? i guess if you have really low standards) i just don't deal with him. i cut him off before it gets to the point where i am ignoring his calls. much easier than leading him on, feeding him bullshit, and then feeling guilty about it. sometimes you do a guy a favor by flat-out rejecting him. you save him the bullshit that will inevitably flow if you give him your number. and as miss manners says, it's much more polite to be up-front than to give your number and then ignore his calls.

these things aside, let's say that there are five i've been seeing who do make the cut. and i have slept with neither of them (of course there wouldn't be five had i slept with one already.) with whom would i choose to spend my friday?

how about i draw up a flow chart.

who is available ---> what do they feel like doing? ----> which of these things do i feel like doing? ---> choice.

of course, the above assumes they all have equal standing with me.

what if i feel like going out but don't want to call everyone and say, "lemme call you back." how do i decide whom to call first?

i guess i would have to put them in order of preference. if i preferred them all equally, i'd put them in order of time it has been since i've seen them. if i saw guy A last thursday, guy B last friday, guy C last saturday, guy D two thursdays ago and guy E two fridays ago, i would call guy D first because i haven't seen him for the longest.

since i generally don't see five guys at once, i usually call up the person i feel like seeing at the time. most of the time i've already made plans for the weekend. so all the above is entirely hypothetical.

now this is what intrigues me:

how do guys decide which girl to hang out with on a friday night?

does he list them in order from most to least likely to give him action?

yes i know, that is my cynical idea and i'm not a guy nor do i make decisions based on wether i'm going to get action so i have no idea.

i guess i can conclude that most guys that make my cut are like me: they will hang out with whom they feel like seeing at that moment in time.