abstinence education?

have you ever seen the movie Saved? a girl brought up in a christian home has sex with her boyfried to try to save him (he confesses to her that he is gay) and ends up pregnant. anyway i will explain why i am somewhat against abstinence education in schools. what happens? you get a seventh-grader like myself who, during sex education, decided i was going to "wait until i was married" to engage in sexual activity. Thus, i tuned out the part about birth control, protecting one's self against STDs, etc, because i thought i would not need to know about these things because i planned on shacking up with someone else who was convinced that he would arrive to martimony unscathed as well. but what happens? you grow up, you begin to question why are you waiting if marriage seems like less and less of an enticing proposal, and thus begins your journey of quenching your thirst of sexual curiosity. so then, why is emphasizing abstinence in educational programs not good? (i think it's ok to introduce it as an option, but not as one of the only ones) because you get kids like me, who agree with it because my teachers advised it and i therefore disregarded the more important information. fast forward a few years, and i am looking these things up on the internet (luck for me i have access to the internet, and i was paying a little bit of attention in sex-ed). i think it is the same issue as handing out clean needles to drug addicts. it is much less expensive to hand out free condoms than to take care of young mothers on welfare. so i think one must look responsibly at sex education. religious right, you're never going to convince everyone that they should wait until they are married. save abstinence emphasis for your small groups. because what happens to those who decide for whatever reason that they no longer wish to abstain from sexual activity? if they've only had abstinence hammered down their throats all their lives, and worse, live in socially sheltered conditions, their sex education program has let them down if it has not introduced methods of pregnancy and STD prevention. in other words, we should focus on pregnancy/std prevention (among high schoolers that is), not sex prevention.

another thing that i think has to be changed is our sex educators need to be less conservative in the things they talk about. why? because some STDs can be transmitted without engaging in sexual intercourse. i remember a lady came to talk to my class when i was in 10th grade, and she was supposed to be on the wild side, but i don't remember her ever speaking of oral sex or any other variation of sex-but-not-sex. i think our younger people need someone who is not afraid to talk about these things. some diseases can be transmitted just by exchange of bodily fluids regardless of if you're engaging in intercourse. someone needs to tell them that they can't kid themselves about sex.

geez two rants in a row... i think it's because i don't really have anything interesting that has happend, just interesting (to me) things i have thought. ha ha ha SNORT i have gotten back into nerd mode again! that is because i just got a haircut and i would look really cute if my face didn't look like it were 15 again.